by Joey Ruggiero

Effective & Affective

We have an effect on people, I believe we all know this, but are we effecting them or only affecting them?

We need to be an effective friend, and leader.

  • Effective
    • successful in producing a desired or intended result.
  • Affective
    • relating to moods, feelings, and attitudes.

Friend

Sometimes as friends we are only affecting the person because of joy from laughter or peace from being there for them.

We are only changing moods, feelings or attitudes about a certain thing.

If we are only affecting people there will never be a life long change for them. It will only ever be temporary.

Friends, we must be willing to have true, real conversations with those that we love. Conversations that not only affect emotions, but that effect how they truly live their life.

Emotions change day in and day out, but when we help change someone by truly loving them and effecting the way they live is when we are being a true friend.

Leader

As a leader, we at moments will have to be affective, for people’s emotions. However, if we only sit in that seat as an affective leader, we are creating emotional leaders driven by their mood and not by God.

We must become effective with those we have been granted the honor to lead.

If we do not have a goal for them to grow into, what are they ever going to grow in then?

You have set no goal for them, so how can you successfully know at the end of the process where they have come from? Either stand with their goal for their life or help them set one.

Success as a leader will be choked out if we are specifically moving as a leader only trying to affect people, and not truly effecting them and helping them reach a goal.

Moods will always change from those you are leading or encouraging.

Affecting them on certain days will help them on that day, but our effect on them can be lasting when we set goals for them to reach and help them get there.

What umbrella do you want to use to cover those you care about?
Just changing someone’s emotions, or changing someone’s character?

The choice is up to you.

Joseph iii

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