One of the most difficult things I have witnessed in the course of 4 years going on 5. Is watching young boys struggling with identity.

Thinking that fighting and acting big and bad, and that they have to be a bully to be a “man.”

That they have to be an emotion vault of I have everything together, nothing is wrong.

That they need money and the biggest house and best car, and prettiest girl on their side, to have worth.

I’m sick and tired of seeing a Fatherless generation.

I know I’m young, I know I’m immature, and I know I have a lot to grow in, and don’t have much room to talk.

But, honestly I’m sorry, I’m sick of it.

There are to many boys, trying to do manly things.

They are having sex, getting married, having kids, getting jobs, paying bills, and doing all these things that men are “suppose to do”,

But we are all untrained little boys, thinking that when we do things men do, that we instantly become men.

That’s 100% a lie.

Thinking that you can become a man by just “doing” what men are suppose to do.

Is a lie.

We have to be trained up to be a man.

We can’t just expect to know how to be men in those situations if we have never had a good father, or man in our life’s to train us up to be one.

That is how it was always ment to be, was for boys to be trained up and taught by men. That they may become men one day.

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Us (my generation) we need to step up in a couple ways,

1. Trained up by mentors.

We have to find good men that are chasing the heart of God, and be trained up by them on how to be a true man, not a boy.

Learn from them about life. Ask them about their mistakes, and what they learned from them.

Learn from them on how to take care of a family, how to do different things.
Learn!

Spend time with people farther along in their walk then you and gleam from them everything you can.

2. Be authentic and stop just being clay to iron, but be iron to iron.

We have to be honest with our close friends and our mentors.
If we truly want to become everything we were designed to become we have to be honest with the parts of our lives that are destroying that purpose.

Get real.

It’s okay to share what is hurting you, stop holding back, it’s okay to cry, it’s okay to say you don’t know the answer, that has never made you less of a man.

It makes you more of a man, because you are willing to show weakness and grow and show that you don’t have everything under control.

Real men never stop growing and being authentic.

Iron makes, iron stronger, and iron helps shape clay.

We need both of those types of relationships in our life’s, but you have to have the friends that will make you stronger, not just those you help.

You need to be built up, because we haven’t reached our point of completion.

We have to be trained up on what a true man looks like.

3. Train up boys, to be men.

Find someone to believe in…
Find someone you see potential in, that needs someone to believe in them, and never, I’ll say it again, never, give up on them.

Even when they’re making stupid mistakes and fall short.
Because we have done just the same…

Forgive those who never believed in you, and start to believe in someone.

Don’t give up on them because they fall short of your expectations, believe in them like you have always wanted someone to believe in you.

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We can change this upcoming generation by being different then the past.

I’m not saying everyone in the past generations messed up or didn’t do a good job or are not doing a good job, but there has been a lot of failure.

We can help raise Godly men, who will raise Godly family’s, which will change our culture of what “men” look like. Which will change our nation.

It’s a ripple affect, but are we willing to be the ones that start the ripple?

Ripples go from its beginning point to the end of a pond… But something has to go in to start that affect.

I really want us to be a generation to change the Fatherless generation that we where born into…

We can either complain about it, or start to do something about it.

It all starts with one decision to become a man first, and because of that decision we will be able to train up boys into men.

Only way for us to become men is to focus on the man that is Jesus, and in that learn from the men who have gone before us.

Be a ripple in a pond much bigger then yourself… 

Joseph III